This is a post that I should have written quite a bit ago, butttt anyways lol.
I went on a date in OCT with a great guy. I was nervous at first, but he was such a gentleman that I was pretty at ease during dinner. I was happy with having more time with him than I thought I would. I thought we were going to have a few hours to chat, eat, and chat some more. We pretty much spent the entire day together. ๐ It was a wonderful day too. I haven’t had a great time like that in quite awhile. What sort of annoyed me didn’t have anything to do with him. It did, however, have lots to do with people around us.
I am not sure if he noticed, but I did. I would look around every now and again to see a person or two staring at us. Why they were staring I can’t really say for sure actually. Were they staring because I am a big girl with an average sized guy? Are they staring because I am younger than him? Although by looking at him you can’t really tell he is older than me. Hm…I did catch a snippet of something someone said though. A black lady was talking to her (i’m assuming son) but she said,” Huh. Okayyy..” Her son looked over and said, ” Are they…??” I just rolled my eyes.
I have dealt with the looks and stares of people before for different reasons. Having someone stare because of someone’s skin tone is just ridiculous. Someone did ask me if it worried me that I would always be looked at funny. I told them it wouldn’t worry me. Someone who takes their time to stare me down will usually get a look back lol.
Ppl have “warned” me that it will be rough to be with someone outside of my race. Why? Better yet why should it be? This isn’t my first time dating someone who wasn’t black.I usually notice the looks, stares, and upturned noses of disgust. I also know that there are people out there who could give two shits out of a monkey’s ass who is beside me.
Ppl have asked me if it was “worth it” to pursue dating him. Uh yes! For many reasons I am not willing to share just yet I do believe dating him is worth it and more. I do have family members who are quite racist. I expect them to be downright disrespectful towards me. If we were to become an “item” they wouldnt meet him. No, I wouldnt be ashamed for them to meet him. I know how they are and they would make it a mission to make him uncomfortable. I can tolerate plenty of things except someone who will be an ass because he is of a different race. Their negativity isn’t wanted, needed, or required in any shape or form anyways.
SO can I take the stares? Sure. Can I take the odd disrespectful word? Definitely. There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like you for whatever reason. Why should I have to accommodate someone else’s prejudice? That’s right…I shouldn’t. And I won’t. I like him. Get over it or not *shrug* Hm not going to stop my happiness ๐